• Does your child have unlimited access to the Internet and apps on their phones? If you have not considered online dangers and health risks for your child, you have to read the article published in Servamus: June 2021.

  • Children as young as 12 years start to experiment with drugs. Make sure that you read the article published in Servamus: June 2021 to learn what parents can do if they expect that their child is using drugs.

  • During divorce battles one parent often alienates the other from having a relationship with their children. In Servamus: June 2021 we discuss this form of emotional abuse of parents and children.

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By Kotie Geldenhuys

“I am John. My ‘new’ father enjoyed a couple of drinks at night and then started swearing at my mother. When I was six years old, he hit my mother with his fist. I sat in the corner of the room, closed my eyes and covered my ears. I tried not to hear anything, but the punching was quite loud. This became the norm in our house, this is what I knew and this is how we lived. I will never forget the corner of the room where I had hidden, the swearing of my ‘new’ father and the tears in my mother’s eyes.”

Historically, domestic violence has been regarded as a private issue between couples. But these days domestic violence has become a societal issue which does not only affect the couple, but also the children living with them. For too many children, home is no longer a safe haven as they are exposed to violence in the home which denies them their right to a safe and stable environment where they can grow up.

Living in a house where domestic violence is part of their daily environment can be traumatic to children who have to witness constant arguing and yelling, intimidation, threats of suicide or murder, threats involving weapons as well as assault. These children are not merely innocent bystanders, but they are victims of domestic violence. The emotions they feel and the memories imprinted in their brains can have an impact on their beliefs, the choices they make in relationships and on many other facets of life.

Although both men and women can be perpetrators and victims of domestic violence, men are the dominant perpetrators of this form of violence. We will therefore refer to men or fathers as the perpetrators in this article.

A global problem
Worldwide, millions of children are victims of domestic violence which they witness at home and which has a powerful and profound impact on their lives and hopes for the future. In the absence of more recent statistics of the number of children growing up in households where domestic violence occurs, we will refer to the shocking figures which UNICEF released in 2006. According to UNICEF, this figure in the United Kingdom ranged between 240 000 and 963 000, in Germany it was estimated at one million, in Turkey the figure ranged between two and six million, and in the USA, it ranged between 339 000 and 2.7 million children. In Australia it was between 75 000 and 640 000 children who were exposed to domestic violence compared to between 500 000 and 1.3 million children in South Africa. The same UNICEF document suggests that 275 million children across the world witness domestic violence on average in a year (UNICEF, 2006). More than 15 years later, these figures might have increased significantly as the 2019/2020 national crime statistics revealed that 38 656 cases of domestic-related assaults, attempted murders and murders were registered for that financial year (SAPS, 2020). The national police statistics illustrate the extent to which children in South Africa might be exposed to domestic violence. In 2020, the World Health Organisation (WHO) noted that an estimated one billion children aged between two and 17 years, have experienced physical, sexual or emotional violence or neglect in the past year - domestic violence is one of the types of violence that the WHO lists (WHO, 2020).

Impact of witnessing domestic violence on a child
Witnessing domestic violence has a devastating impact on the social, emotional, physiological and physical development of a child. Domestic violence can even have an impact on an unborn child due to the distress the mother experiences (Howell et al, 2016).

Children who are exposed to domestic violence are always on guard, wondering when the next violent event will happen. They might display behavioural problems, sleeping problems, cognitive and emotional problems such as irritability, fear of being alone, problems with language development, poor concentration, aggressiveness, antisocial behaviour, anxiety, depression, violent behaviour, low frustration tolerance and eating problems (Pingley, 2017).

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[This is only an extract of an article published in Servamus: June 2021. The rest of the article discusses the long-term effects on these child victims; how these children are used and abused and the importance that victims of domestic violence do not have to stay in such relationships. If you want to find out how you can read the rest of this article, send an e-mail to: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..]

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Servamus - June 2021

Not a day goes by that we do not see or interact with a private security officer - either when we visit a shopping centre, have a security crisis at home or at the office or when a private security officer passes us while patrolling the neighbourhoods in their vehicles.
By Annalise Kempen
Family murder is a heartbreaking topic and one will never understand how parents can commit such acts involving their own children.
By Kotie Geldenhuys
“I am John. My ‘new’ father enjoyed a couple of drinks at night and then started swearing at my mother.
By Kotie Geldenhuys
When the eight-year-old victim of Nicolas Ninow (the so-called Dros rapist) was asked to testify in court, social media users were up in arms about the reason why this young victim had to testify.
By Kotie Geldenhuys

Pollex - June 2021

Read More - S v Klaas, Case No: CC51/2020, dated 30 November 2020, High Court Grahamstown (ECG)
Mr Wandile Klaas, hereinafter referred to as the accused, was convicted by the High Court in Grahamstown (nowadays called Makhanda) of count 1: housebreaking with intent to commit theft; count 2: rape; and count 3: theft.
A discussion entitled “Before the accused has pleaded to the charge” and/or, “Two men have been taken in for questioning by the police”, was published in Ask Pollex in Servamus: November 2020.
Read More - S v Thabani Luthuli Case no: AR 106/2020 High Court in Pietermaritzburg, KZN (KZP)
Introduction Mr Thabani Luthuli, the accused, was convicted before the regional court in Ixopo in KZN (“the trial court”) of count 1, housebreaking with the intent to rape, and, count 2, rape.

Letters - June 2021

Securing a conviction in a murder case is always a reason to celebrate that justice has been served.
June Magazine Cover

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