• Too many street children resort to sniffing glue to help them to forget about the pain, cold and even abuse they have to suffer. We explore their world in an article featured in Servamus: May 2021.

  • The reality about the persistent demand for babies due to people who cannot have their own, has resulted in a market for “human fertility”. We explore this shocking reality in the May 2021 issue of Servamus.

  • Perfect parents do not exist, but parents can be guided in doing their best to help their children to grow up to become responsible and law-abiding citizens. In the May 2021 issue of Servamus we provide our readers with a parenting guide.

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By Annalise Kempen

This tweet left me with much to think about:
“So my 8 year old met the guy in my life for the first time and he asked him for permission to call him dad.

What broke my heart is the way he started the conversation. ‘Do you know that I don’t have a dad? The one I USED to have disappeared.”

Another mother echoed this tweet:
“My 4 yr old asked me ‘Mama why does my dad hate me?’, ‘Why doesn’t he love me?’, ‘When will he take me to school?’ How does one answer those types of questions?”

These two tweets, which embody the realities for many single
mothers and their children, were answered with the following tweet: “Kids really love to have daddies in their lives.”

In 2018, Statistics SA revealed that 76% of children younger than 18 years lived with their biological mothers, while 36.4% of children lived with their biological fathers (StatsSA, 2021). When such a large percentage of children do not have the privilege of having both parents to help, teach and guide them into adulthood, what impact does that have on these children’s lives? Should other men in society such as teachers, or in their families such as an uncle or a grandfather play a more significant role in these children’s lives? Or, should the community and the law put more pressure on the absent parent to fulfil their parental role in their children’s lives?

The role of fathers in their children’s lives
Each parent plays a significant role in their children's lives - a role that impacts on their children and which help to shape them into the person they eventually become. The American Pediatrics Association of Franklin (Nd) informs us that children look to their father to not only lay down rules, but also enforce them, while they simultaneously look to their fathers to provide a feeling of security on both a physical and emotional level. Where fathers are affectionate and supportive, it has a positive impact on their children's cognitive and social well-being, while it also instils an overall sense of well-being and self-confidence. An important factor which this Association highlights is that, while girls are likely to model their relationships with others based on their father's character, boys will model themselves after their father's character. If for example a boy gets from his father to be caring and treat others with respect, the young boy is likely to grow up to do the same (Pediatrics Associates of Franklin, Nd). 

Julian Jansen, a well-known South African journalist and the author of Seuns sonder pa's (English: Boys without fathers) reminds us that a father is supposed to be his daughter's "first love" and his son's "first hero".

Children who have fathers who are involved in their lives, are also more likely to enjoy school because they have a better attitude towards school, participate in extracurricular activities and complete their school career (Allen and Daly, 2002). But, if a father is absent, young boys will look to other men to find and "set the rules" on how they are to behave and survive in this world (Pediatrics Associates of Franklin, Nd). This is often the reason why boys join gangs where they are accepted (Jansen, 2021), have a sense of belonging for protection and a sense of identity (Childnet International, Nd). In an article published by the Minnesota Psychological Association, Jerrod Brown (Nd) confirms that a high percentage of gang members come from homes where their fathers are absent most possibly due to a need for a sense of belonging, which is an important element for all individuals. Gangs provide youngsters with a sense of community and acceptance, while the gang leader may fill the role of a father, even though he will lead his members to model their behaviour on him. Having a father, or at least a significant father figure and positive role-model in the child's life will greatly reduce the likelihood of a child joining a gang.

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Servamus - May 2021

This tweet left me with much to think about: “So my 8 year old met the guy in my life for the first time and he asked him for permission to call him dad.
By Annalise Kempen
South Africa is not only one of the countries with the highest crime rates in the world, but also with the highest rate of Foetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) globally.
By Kotie Geldenhuys
In April 2021, a video showing a Grade 10 learner being bullied in full view of her peers at a secondary school in Limpopo, went viral on social media.
By Sas Otto
Infertility or the desire to have a child has resulted in many babies ending up as commodities for sale on the black market.
By Kotie Geldenhuys

Pollex - May 2021

Read More - Doorewaard and Another v the State (Case No 908/2019) [2020] ZASCA 155 (27 November 2020) and 2021(1) SACR 235 (SCA
ntroduction Mr Pieter Doorewaard (accused 1) and Mr Philip Schutte (accused 2) were convicted before the High Court in Mahikeng in the North West Province (“the trial court”) on five counts, namely murder; kidnapping; intimidation; theft and illegal pointing of a firearm.
Read More - S v Lekeka 2021 (1) SACR 106 (FB)
Mr Molefe Edward Lekeka, the accused, was convicted by the regional court in Bethlehem in the Free State (“the trial court”), of count 1, housebreaking with intent to contravene section 3 of the Criminal Law (Sexual Offences and Related Matters) Amendment Act 32 of 2007 (hereinafter referred to as Act 32 of 2007), and count 2, contravening section 55(a) of Act 32 of 2007.
Read More - amaBhungane Centre for Investigative Journalism NPC* and Another v Minister of Justice and Correctional Services and Others; Minister of Police v amaBhungane Centre for Investigative Journalism NPC* and Others CCT 278/19 AND CCT 279/19 dated 4 February 2021 Constitutional Court (CC)
The applicants, namely amaBhungane Centre for Investigative Journalism NPC* and Mr Stephen Sole - a journalist who had been the subject of state surveillance* - approached the High Court in Pretoria (“the High Court”) on the basis of a number of constitutional challenges to the Regulation of Interception of Communications and Provision of Communication-related Information Act 70 of 2002 (hereinafter referred to as “RICA”)*.

Letters - May 2021

I endorse the sentiments of Jay Jugwanth about the absence of the Police Minister and MEC at the home of Sgt Paul.
On 11 March 2021, a closely-knit family was robbed of its nucleus, D/Sgt Jeremy Paul, who was ambushed and murdered while tracing a suspected in Swapo, an informal settlement in Pietermaritzburg.
Losing Louis has been very difficult for both myself, my sons, Jordan aged 14 and Jared aged 12. Louis contracted Covid-19 at the beginning of December 2020, and became too weak to fight anymore.
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